Now, after going through 9 beautiful days with no contact, I'm reflecting on the music that helped get me through the past 4 months of severing ties.
He and I listened to the band, CAKE. A friend of mine gave me a copy of their album, Prolinging the Magic, about 2 months into the split. I burned a copy for my narcissist and left it in his mailbox wrapped in a published article I wrote about emotional and mental abuse. Then I listened to the album- over and over and over again.
Those songs must've been written with a narcissist in mind, because every song hit home- either in regards to him, or in regards to me. It made me think of him, hate him, love him & then hate him again- it was wonderful! After about a week of it, I was done. And I haven't listened to it since.
Shovels & Rope "Swimmin' Time" (Deluxe Version) was also a great album to listen to. To keep myself busy with other things (since I was escaping him & didn't care what he was doing), I created art. I chose to paint on canvas. Some of these songs blasting through my earbuds while I slung acrylic paint was just the inspiration I needed!
I also love stoned to John Gorka's"Armed with a Broken Heart." It was another song mixing my actions & his.
I havent listened to much music for about 2 weeks. When I drive in my car, I listen to country music now (it's not what I listened to with my narcissist). I hope these help you heal!
